“HOW TO BE HAPPY IN LIFE,(FOR SENIORS AND YOUNGER”; THE WIT OF EUGENE, OREGON”

(ANOTHER ART WORK RIPPED OFF THE WEB, ARTIST UNKNOWN) “HILLARY CLINTON, PREZ. OF U.S.A.”

This following post in this series.of life by a senior native of Eugene, Oregon, will be a BRIEF “advertisment” not only for how superior mankind, (oh, yeah,)is, than other animals, but “how to be happy as a human being”. In no way can this method be used for elephants, whales or the Big cats, as Mankind is set on killing THEM (cougars in Oregon) all off.

DON’T BE ONE.

FIRST, you seniors (especially ones with fibromyalgia, ouch) have the hardest time being happy.You are often in physical pain from arthritis, bad feet, all problems of getting old physically, plus cancer killing you & the deaths of wives, relatives, old friends, your work-death, & your retirement-money’s death, often broke, ALONE,(see: Wall St. & “bloated govt.”) and you are now living in an inferior environment, w/expensive food, more cancer, a bleak scary future, and, maybe worst of all, you have found out this truism:

There is no wonderful, or find-able, reason for life.You are not happy, (maybe you never were) and time has run out, to transform magically into a happy person. Despite all the psychiatrists, psychologists, and wisdom of the Chabad, you never got over your child-hood, or teen-age traumas (especially if they were extreme) and now, it’s clear that you never will.You spent all that insurance, or cash, on shrinks, and you now realize that therapy was all just to make every shrink a living. You could have had a very expensive wonderful vacation with all the insurance( and cash) and been happier on vacation.

That is true. WHY did you search all your life, for the secret of life? Here is the reason: every single piece of literature mostly religious, or psychiatic, and all your  relatives and every single piece of publication,, has written that there is a magical “secret of life” that you just have to to discover.– – and then you’ll be happy. If you are very smart, intellectual, it is even worse because  you are more apt to spend  a lot of time, in philosophy and religion, searching for that secret  of life everyone assures you is there .Religions tend to be the worst of all, telling you that if you’re good, wonderful to everyone, kind to everyone, worked hard, etc., that will make you happy.– as well as  repairing the world.

to quote Cole Porter, “it ain’t necessarily so.”

here is one requirement for happiness, that my sister,, as well as  billions of others have discovered: you have to be lucky.

luck requires that you be born into certain circumstances, family, economics, era, country, continent, social and physical that greatly ensure that you’re more likely to be happy. Theologians say “Nay, nay,, nay!” But it is a fact. Being a rickshaw driver, in China, unable to get out of that particular grueling life, and only able to find brief respite by smoking opium in an opium den designates you as “unlucky”. It has nothing to do with KARMA, as it has never been proved that you’re unhappy now, because you are a very bad evil person in your past lives. There’s no proof. No one has ever come back from death, and said “I’m being punished because I was Hitler in a past lifetime.”

Karma is only a justification, for why you’re being punished now. Forget it! Like above, “there’s no proof of karma..”

to the contrary, except for right at the ending, Hitler was pretty happy with his lot. Most rich dictators, who have a lot of power and money, are mostly happy. They don’t have to be good; they only have to be  lucky, and able to become dictators.to become a super rich family or person, takes a lot of ruthlessness, lack of empathy, animal cunning, and the grit to carry through to your goal. – –  And to hang on and keep it that way.

the very richest, more successful drug dealer, is very likely to be happy with it. Why else would he do it? Don’t fall for that  old motto that says “the poor are able to be happy also.or, even more happy than the rich.” I can tell you from experience,  it’s very very miserable being poor. That’s why nobody wants to be that way! if certain religious clerics, or people, have convinced themselves that they’re all so happy with it, let them have it. Very few people are still happy being extremely poor, in the way of the world. Even a very loving affectionate family often cannot make up for it.. It is better to have a loving, affectionate family if you’re poor,but extreme poverty still makes your loving affectionate family miserable also.

here is another necessity of life, that is a sure component of being happy;you  really have to be PHYSICALLY and MENTALLY, and EMOTIONALLY WELL. And that also requires luck.if you are extremely physically disabled, it is very difficult, in this world to be extremely happy.  Some people say that they are,  but I know for certainty, knowing a lot of the disabled community, that it really is a bitch, and a lifetime hazard to happiness.  human beings were made to be physically, mentally and emotionally well, as the world is hard, competitive, and ruthless itself.disabled people are more likely to be very poor, as nobody wants to hire them, and it’s really hard to make a living.

DISCRIMINATION is a big problem for anybody disabled.even if you have very bad mental and or emotional illness,or autism, it’s very likely to lock you out of the mainstream of human society. This is an absolute truth, I’m sorry, I’ve been there and it’s TRUE. go ahead and ask a bunch of disabled people, how they like being locked out of the mainstream of human society. They don’t like it. It isolates them, and cut down their chances of being part of society and the world. also, being very mentally and or emotionally ill, you are not able as well as the luckier person, to enjoy life.

we have now discussed most of the circumstances of the human being, that contribute mostly to his chances of being happy. And, we’ve already discussed how lack of those circumstances can make you very unhappy. What then, can you still do, to be happy, even if you have the above miserable circumstances?

one way to  accomplish happiness, even with some of those worst characteristics above, is to NOT THINK. Yes,  we are advocating that you not think! DO NOT EXAMINE LIFE. Because the more you think about it, and study it, the more unhappy you get! very intelligent, or/and sensitive humans (especially artists,) are some of the unhappiest people. Being more intelligent, and REALIZING HOW HARD IT IS, TO CHANGE BAD CIRCUMSTANCES, AND HOW UNFAIR LIFE IS, —AND THE INABILITY TO CHANGE or CONTROL LIFE—CAN MAKE YOU VERY UNHAPPY. You are too smart to be fooled by dumb clap-trap about “you can control your life; You can control happiness, no matter your problems”. “Call our psychics, & find happiness!” “find happiness in God”!!!

TRY to keep your illusions and delusions .If you drink too much, and go to A.A,, and now you get dry,and realize HOW MISERABLE YOU HAVE ALWAYS BEEN, think about whether or not you want to be vulnerable now, not drinking, and is it worth it? HOW OLD are you? If you’re young enough to change some stuff, ok. But if you’re only now pelted by the misery, who cares if you drink? If you’re only responsible for yourself, (let your spouse divorce you) who says there are cures for your life? NOT a guarantee . DITTO DRUGS— chances are, you might be very happy off drugs (see: “necessities of happiness”) and not finally kill yourself. GREAT–can you manage to live off drugs, face your reality, noting how your original pain surfaces?  CAN you live with the pain, and find good enough ways to handle life,and not get snowed?  It might be more realistic to pick a “pot-liberated state,” set up residence, and  ACCEPT YOURSELF.

ACCEPTING YOURSELF, AND NOT BEATING YOURSELF UP, can make you happier. this is true.

There are ways to consider, “HOW MUCH CONTROL have you got over your life?” or how much have you EVER HAD? IT’s time to realize, how LITTLE CONTROL we have had,and have, over our life circumstances.

NO, YOU DON’T HAVE THAT MUCH CONTROL OVER LIFE!! go watch the old HBO SERIES, “SIX FEET UNDER”, and observe how much control, any of these characters had over their deaths, OR LIFE. Most of these people tried to control life, and failed.Much of of our life is already decided for us. You can TRY, but, please, be realistic. You have much LESS CONTROL than we are blamed for.

there are even people who say, BLACK PEOPLE who stick together, ARE HAPPIER. (TRUE.)–And if you noticed, yourHispanic neighbors may be  happier, with their families.White people get dumped, often, alone,old,  sick or poor, unlike the fore mentioned 2 races.When black or Hispanic folks hang together, supportive, the white person, alone, is unhappier. With this statistic looming, have white people in the U.S.A. FORGOTTEN how to be supportive families? And DUMP very disabled or old, ect., family members? It appears very possible.

Maybe all the dumped solitary, lonely white folks, should put on black face, and pretend!!!(sarcasim).

here are some very patented, and reliable,, ways that you can try to be happy.  Some of them work more than others. DON’T BE POOR, if you can help it.

ACCEPT your self the way you are. Mostly that is out of control except for the few things that you can change.it doesn’t help make you happier, to hate yourself for what you can’t do or can’t be.

ACCEPT THAT THE WORLD IS OUT OF YOUR CONTROL, and most or at least many of things in life are completely out of your control. It does not help to be a control – freak. SORRY! It’s just reality!

PICK  FRIENDS who  accept  you the way you are. Stay away from people who overly judge you, or berate you for your problems, and tell you “you could make a lot more money if you just shaped up, got over ALL those problems, and got a really good job.”– – like it’s very easy, now, to just go out, in the United States,  and get a very good job. Ha ha. Even the experts can’t do it.oh, and, you’re supposed to “just get over those  little problems, it’s so easy!”

ACCEPT that, much of your life is out of your control, and always has been,, including all the circumstances into which you were born, and which make a lot of difference  in how you are now.be realistic about it.

STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP, for not being happy. Most of the planet people are not happy, because it is a very hard world, for the majority of its inhabitants, are not very happy. It is also a fallacy that most Americans are happy. Drug addiction and alcoholism in the United States is rampant, (says one very good workbook on depression,,)  because nobody in this society is supposed to express not positive, painful feelings. According to Americanism,, you are always supposed to be HAPPY. NO UNHAPPINESS! NO NEGATIVE FEELINGS! What are you supposed to do with them? Americanism requires that you drug a lot, and/or drink a lot, and hide all of your negative feelings. It doesn’t really help, it just makes you an addict.(the above statement that it might be better to be a drunk, or be a druggie, iis really up to you..)

THERE  ARE a few things, in your life, probably even very tiny ones, that you can control. Some of them can make you happy sometimes. For example, those of us who worship at the shrine of SpongeBob Square pants, are made very happy by him. 🙂 even if only for a few minutes a day. There are also those of us who are made happy by fashion, writing, artwork, drawing, painting, sewing, and trying to knit. (Yes, I am trying it’s not as easy as you think.  SEE above: don’t expect yourself to be perfect.–this includes very difficult knitting. However, it is fun.) Maybe you like TREES! If you are an Oregon native you very likely like trees!– – and you try to do what you can to watch out for them.

BE KIND TO OTHER PEOPLE.it is not only good for them, it makes you feel like a worthwhile person. It doesn’t mean you have to be Rockefeller or have your own huge charity. Just do what you can! Especially personally!7and you also don’t have to be a member of the Chabad.–or any particular religion. Eugene,Oregon, has quite a number of very nice churches, who use their organizations, to have charities and help for the poor  and elderly who need it. But, for example you could be a complete agnostic or athiest, and still be kind to people.

“Be gentle with yourself.”–I got this one from SASS, (look it up) in Eugene, OR, and its been very helpful to me.we are usually our own worst critics and very hard on ourselves.they not only recommend this, they also recommend writing things down, like keeping a journal, (they don’t know that I publicize everything, here on my blog, and just blab blab blab, as if I knew the secrets of the universe. Good thing they don’t read this.)

AND, MOST OF ALL, DON’T EXPECT LIFE,, or GOD, TO BE PERFECT – –please, accept yourself the way you are, the world the way it is,(this typing the way it is,) and most of all, please, for God’s sake, don’t look at God and say “YOU ARE PERFECT! You can fix everything!” That is the most untrue, mythological BS of all time. If you are an intelligent person, or even if you’re not, take it from me, whatever God there is, or “evolutionary systems” that make up all of existence, you can’t expect them to be perfect the way you want.that is another religious fallacy that I very much dislike.

You can look at the world itself, and see that, this is not the work of a idealistic, all perfect, “knows what he is doing” deity of any kind.the universe and the creator are perfect, in their own way, but it’s not necessarily OUR WAY. It would be a good idea to look at everything from the eye view of the creator,  and realize that  everything is perfect the way it is.even ourselves! For all we are bastard guerrillas, with too– big– brain cases, this is as good as we can manage right now.. No, I don’t like having a nice intelligent mind, in the body of a gorilla. Not my idea of a good time!but, until a better substitute comes along, we’re stuck with this one.

this sounds like  “a whole lot of acceptance can help you be happier.” That’s probably true.after all, alcoholics anonymous, and some other distant quaint philosophies, have known this for a long time.  And, it is FAR EASIER, and MORE PRACTICAL. And,  more often than not, IT WORKS.  at least, it helps a great deal. Thank you! You may now go out, into the world, and be as unhappy or as happy as you can manage, or as you can put up with, with my permission. (Smirk) as if you needed my permission! You don’t need anybody’s permission! You should accept that also! Ha ha Ha.

Boy, if it wasn’t for a very good sense of humor, I’d never get out of misery myself! I just laugh at all of you, haw haw, and the world, AND GOD, and try to get over myself!I recommend it.  🙂

(Sandraminadotty, the psychic-net-work-substitute=-and KNOW-IT-ALL-SENIOR  OF EUGENE, OR!!!!!)